Sometimes life can get really difficult. Especially if you have a big lifechanging decision to make. There are som much you need to think through and evaluate to make sure you make the right choice. But is there always a right and a wrong decision?
I mean, no matter what you want in life, there's always something you chose not to do. If you chose to focus on your education in stead of settling down and getting a "safe job" right after high school, people wont blame you for making the wrong choice in life. But sometimes a decision can be right for one person, and totally wrong for another.
For instance, take my friend, Mari, who I went to high school with. She's getting married with her boyfriend in july this summer. She's only 21 years old, but totally convinced that it's the right thing to do. The weird thing is, I agree with her. If someone however would ask me when I plan to get married I'd probably start laughing or just say "I'm not sure if I ever will".
Mari and me have developed in two different directions since high school. None of them could be considered wrong. The society expect certain things of us today, and to be honest I feel the pressure. The media is pushing down the age-limit for when you have to reach success in life. All the time I hear girl my age saying they want to finish their masters, build a career, get married AND have children before they reach their 30s! Is this really a realistic goal?
I guess the answer to that is too individual to answer. What I do know is that the picture media often make, does not include everyone in the phrame. That's why I've decided that the wisest thing for me would be not to try to fit into it, because I never will, but to make my own phrame for the future.
Where do I see myself, and what do I want for myself? It's a difficult question to answer even without including other people's ecpectations of me. It will take time, and I'm going to get frustrated at several points, but I am certain that I can build the road in front of me as I'm walking it! I've chosen to focus on my career as I feel I'm ready to start study, and I don't feel ready at all to settle down with a husband and kids. And I've chosen to study Development Studies as I know it's a subject that I'm interested in, and at the same time it gives me a lot of options when it comes to jobs and my masters. When it comes to age-limit... well, I don't have one. I figure I'll take my time, and everything else will come to me eventually, when I'm ready:)